Editorial Reviews. Review. "This is a book Christians need to read." —The Christian Post "The rare marriage book I would heartily recommend to any single, . The Meaning of Marriage. Marriage is a unique relationship different from all others. A Pastoral Statement of the. Irish Catholic Bishops' Conference. O. Renowned pastor of New York's Redeemer Presbyterian Church and author of the forthcoming Every Good Endeavor, Timothy Keller with his wife of 36 years.
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The Meaning of Marriage Timothy Keller. for Marriage (PDF); Chapter 3: The Essence of Marriage (PDF); Chapter 4: The Mission of Marriage. under the title: The Meaning of Marriage Herbert Doms, Vom Sinn und Zweck der Ehe (Breslau: Ostdeutsche Verlagsanstalt,. 5); Du sens et de la fin . The Meaning of Marriage: Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate, that romance is the most important part of a successful.
I'm most familiar with the Orthodox Church, of which I am a member. I agree with the noted Orthodox theologian, Paul Evdokimov, who writes, "Both the preservation of the species and selfish sexual pleasure reduce the partner to a mere tool and destroy his dignity.
Love alone bestows a spiritual meaning upon marriage, and justifies it by elevating it to perceive the countenance of the beloved in God, to the level of the one and only icon While both procreation and sexual enjoyment are of course present in most marriages, they do not define what it means to become "one flesh. This is the mystery of marriage within the context of the Orthodox Church. Other perspectives, such as marriage as a convenient contractual arrangement, are socially constructed and derived.
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The Church takes the vehicle of the social construct, such as marriage in this instance , retains its value and elevates it to a higher purpose. To confuse the sacrament with the vehicle is like confusing the Eucharistic gift with bread sold on the shelf at the local supermarket.
Evdokimov continues: "Man and woman move toward one another by 'mutually getting to know each other,' by revealing themselves to each other for a shared ascent; nothing comes to ennoble or legitimize, still less to 'pardon' this meaning that royally imposes itself before, or even independent of, procreation It is from this overflowing fullness that the child can come as fruit, but it is not procreation that determines and establishes the value of marriage. John Chrysostom says: 'When there is no child, will they not be two?
Most certainly, for their coming together has this effect, it diffuses and commingles the bodies of both. And as one who has cast ointment into oil, who has made the whole one, so in truth it is also here.
Marriage is the intimate union of two lives, ' 'the sacrament of love. In an essay titled, "Beauty, Sexuality and Love" he writes, "The meaning of sexual love is generally supposed to consist in subserving the propagation of the species.
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I consider this view to be mistaken -- not on the ground of any ideal considerations as such, but first and foremost on ground of natural history. He first makes the point that sex is not necessary for reproduction, which may be witnessed in processes such as cellular division, sporing and budding, both in vegetable life and in lower animal life forms.
That takes years. You actually love the idea of the person — and that is always, at first, one-dimensional and somewhat mistaken.
In marriage you are exposed. You finally have your mask and finery stripped away, as it were. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God.
It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw us.
It requires us to face the truth about ourselves and one another. But alone with truth, we need love. Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it.
Without grace truth and love cannot be combined. Spouses either stay away from the truth or attack one another. Marriage Revolves Around Service It takes a loss of pride and self-will for a person to humbly serve others.
Keller argues that only if you have learned to serve others by the power of the Holy Spirit will you be able to face the challenges of marriage. Marriage is a Covenant of Action When one studies a covenant it becomes clear that love is fundamentally action rather than primarily emotion.
To be united to someone through a covenant is to be bound by promise, or oath. A covenant has horizontal aspects as well as vertical.
A covenant relationship is not just intimate despite being legal. It is a relationship that is more intimate because it is legal. But underneath them all I see growing the person God wants you to be.
The Purpose of Marriage is Not Procreation
Sanctification is a group project, and most intense between two spouses.In cases such as these, the principle of marital fidelity to one's marriage partner was compromised. Those unmarried were therefore limited to widows, eunuchs, those who could not marry due to diseases such as leprosy or severe economic difficulties, those who did not marry because of some type of divine call, those who had undergone a divorce, or unmarried young men and women.
What is the biblical pattern for marriage? Name required. Births to unmarried women accounted for about one-third of all births in the s. They are to provide for their wives both physically and spiritually and to cherish them as God's special provision for them Ephesians It also helps account for the widespread nature of divorce and the massive assault on marriage as an institution in our contemporary culture.
In a broad sense, this family also includes any other persons related by blood the extended family.
As long as a given marriage relationship meets the needs of both individuals involved and is considered advantageous by both sides, the marriage is worth sustaining.